1967
I was there, in 1967, and know....some of it is true.
I did have a fist fight with a guy, who became my best friend....
The kid who disrupted the class got beaten with a leather strap....I got a blackboard ruler broken over my ass....we both went on to be abusive to other people, when we got the chance.....I learned to stop. The other guy is in jail.
The problem is beating a kid for being unable to live up to expectations he cannot achieve, through no fault of his own. That is a horrible fate for a child....like a parent who beats a bedwetting child.....
There are too many idiots in the world who think all you need to do is beat somebody and it solves any problem.
The principal and Johnny's Dad taught the lesson that you can get what you want out of people if you hurt them enough and in the right way.
The truth is that if you teach people that it is legitimate to humiliate other people and cause them pain when they don't do what you want, you are teaching the same lesson that wife-abusers, child-abusers, and terrorists have in common....violence is a legitimate way to coerce other people into behaving in a way that suits you best.
During my teacher's training, I was taught that yes, indeed, the good old days of innocent physical contact between a teacher and a child were *over*....I was told not to do it, I was placing my career at risk.
Should your nurse or doctor hug you when you are at pain in their office?
Yeah, we do live in times of idiocy and oversimplification, as well as overcomplication.
But some of these things you mention, are just "straw man" situations you set up so you can knock them down.....
There are no *female* teachers who have ever been sent to prison for merely hugging a child who had injured himself.....in the absence of any other behaviors which could be considered inappropriate.
And as for Johnny, who makes home made bombs, if I believed in corporal punishment, I'd want his ass whacked.....too many kids each year lose their hands and eyes from dumbass experimentation with firecrackers and home made bombs. But maybe a visit from the Firearms people is a good idea....and maybe Dad does need to pay more attention to the stupid shit his son is up to....before he blows off some other kids fingers or eyes.
I have interviewed a number of murderers in my career.
None of them, to my recollection, were raised in homes where the parents believed in discipline, but not physical brutality.
We beat children - most often - because it is the quickest and simplest solution that pops into our minds when we are troubled by their behavior and want it to stop. Not because it is the best and most effective means of encouraging good behavior.
It is a simple truth....you want good kids?
Then you must catch them being GOOD, and encourage those kinds of behaviors whenever you can. You will develop a human being who wants to do good things.
It is a Myth that you can teach a child to be good by beating the devil out of him. You will develop a human being who wants to avoid being punished for the things he wants to do.
He is exactly the type that will kill you so there are no witnesses.
As Ye Sew, so shall Ye Reap.
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